I keep wondering .. is it a bad thing to let friends know when you've had a terrible day at work?
You know .. when someone asks you .. "how was the day", im never too sure if they're expecting an honest answer such as "my day was complete shit and left me with enough energy to do just about NOTHING when i got home" or if you're expected to answer it with the casual banter that is expected "gr8 day .. how was urs?" ..
And what about friends? The ppl we're supp to be able to tell everything? Is it ok to load them with piles of "bad day" stories if you know they have a busy enough life of their own ... i guess .. over time it is ... somehow the filtering with friends works in the strangest ways ... turns out .. those people who may or may not be around on ur most smiling days but are always there on ur bad days .. to hear you and take it all in with a smile .. are the ones who stick it in the long run :-) ... the wonderful thing i realized is .. unless they can make u feel like ur of some use in their routinely miserable lives as well, the friendship isnt quite complete! :-)
A very dear friend's been going through a rough time lately ... and he keeps apologizing about talking about it ... yeah yeah we all have troubles ..and sometimes some of us are more laden with woes than others ... so when fate has it that 2 friends go through shit all at once ... it becomes easy to go on a guilt trip and feel sorry about involving someone else in ur own troubles ... truth is (as ive told him time and again) being a part of someone else's life and problems is more fulfilling than being around every sat night to party with them .. u know what i mean? Being able to make him feel better (or a little less like shit) in his bad times is such a good way to feel useful .. its such a blessing to have people who count on you .. coz it makes you feel like a good friend ... who said being a good friend is all about being selfless :-) As Joey would say .. there are no selfless good deeds ... one might argue that its probably a very cynical way to look at relationships, but to a large extent i derive my worth and fulfillment in my best relationships when im made a part of the problem and asked to be a friend through the bad times :-) more so than the good ones ...
So to all those friends who've hear me go .. "it was a TERRIBLE day .. im exhausted .. drained and feel like killing someone"and have still smiled and said "go on .. tell me more" .. AND to all those friends who've gone .. "Life sucks .. cud it get any worse" and given me the chance to go "go on .. im listening" .. u make friendship the wonderful dependable thing that it is :-) thanks for being there!!! :D